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Sunday, August 14, 2011

Positive Thinking

Positive thinking: Reduce stress by eliminating negative self-talk

Positive thinking helps with stress management and can even improve your health. Practice overcoming negative self-talk with examples provided.

By Mayo Clinic staff Is your glass half-empty or half-full? How you answer this age-old question about positive thinking may reflect your outlook on life, your attitude toward yourself, and whether you're optimistic or pessimistic — and it may even affect your health.
Indeed, some studies show that personality traits like optimism and pessimism can affect many areas of your health and well-being. The positive thinking that typically comes with optimism is a key part of effective stress management. And effective stress management is associated with many health benefits. If you tend to be pessimistic, don't despair — you can learn positive thinking skills. Here's how.

Understanding positive thinking and self-talk

Positive thinking doesn't mean that you keep your head in the sand and ignore life's less pleasant situations. Positive thinking just means that you approach the unpleasantness in a more positive and productive way. You think the best is going to happen, not the worst.
Positive thinking often starts with self-talk. Self-talk is the endless stream of unspoken thoughts that run through your head every day. These automatic thoughts can be positive or negative. Some of your self-talk comes from logic and reason. Other self-talk may arise from misconceptions that you create because of lack of information.
If the thoughts that run through your head are mostly negative, your outlook on life is more likely pessimistic. If your thoughts are mostly positive, you're likely an optimist — someone who practices positive thinking.

The health benefits of positive thinking

Researchers continue to explore the effects of positive thinking and optimism on health. Health benefits that positive thinking may provide include:
  • Increased life span
  • Lower rates of depression
  • Lower levels of distress
  • Greater resistance to the common cold
  • Better psychological and physical well-being
  • Reduced risk of death from cardiovascular disease
  • Better coping skills during hardships and times of stress
It's unclear why people who engage in positive thinking experience these health benefits. One theory is that having a positive outlook enables you to cope better with stressful situations, which reduces the harmful health effects of stress on your body. It's also thought that positive and optimistic people tend to live healthier lifestyles — they get more physical activity, follow a healthier diet, and don't smoke or drink alcohol in excess.

 

dentifying negative thinking

Not sure if your self-talk is positive or negative? Here are some common forms of negative self-talk:
  • Filtering. You magnify the negative aspects of a situation and filter out all of the positive ones. For example, say you had a great day at work. You completed your tasks ahead of time and were complimented for doing a speedy and thorough job. But you forgot one minor step. That evening, you focus only on your oversight and forget about the compliments you received.
  • Personalizing. When something bad occurs, you automatically blame yourself. For example, you hear that an evening out with friends is canceled, and you assume that the change in plans is because no one wanted to be around you.
  • Catastrophizing. You automatically anticipate the worst. The drive-through coffee shop gets your order wrong and you automatically think that the rest of your day will be a disaster.
  • Polarizing. You see things only as either good or bad, black or white. There is no middle ground. You feel that you have to be perfect or that you're a total failure.

Focusing on positive thinking

You can learn to turn negative thinking into positive thinking. The process is simple, but it does take time and practice — you're creating a new habit, after all. Here are some ways to think and behave in a more positive and optimistic way:
  • Identify areas to change. If you want to become more optimistic and engage in more positive thinking, first identify areas of your life that you typically think negatively about, whether it's work, your daily commute or a relationship, for example. You can start small by focusing on one area to approach in a more positive way.
  • Check yourself. Periodically during the day, stop and evaluate what you're thinking. If you find that your thoughts are mainly negative, try to find a way to put a positive spin on them.
  • Be open to humor. Give yourself permission to smile or laugh, especially during difficult times. Seek humor in everyday happenings. When you can laugh at life, you feel less stressed.
  • Follow a healthy lifestyle. Exercise at least three times a week to positively affect mood and reduce stress. Follow a healthy diet to fuel your mind and body. And learn to manage stress.
  • Surround yourself with positive people. Make sure those in your life are positive, supportive people you can depend on to give helpful advice and feedback. Negative people may increase your stress level and make you doubt your ability to manage stress in healthy ways.
  • Practice positive self-talk. Start by following one simple rule: Don't say anything to yourself that you wouldn't say to anyone else. Be gentle and encouraging with yourself. If a negative thought enters your mind, evaluate it rationally and respond with affirmations of what is good about you.
Here are some examples of negative self-talk and how you can apply a positive thinking twist to them.
Negative self-talkPositive thinking
I've never done it before. It's an opportunity to learn something new.
It's too complicated. I'll tackle it from a different angle.
I don't have the resources. Necessity is the mother of invention.
I'm too lazy to get this done. I wasn't able to fit it into my schedule but can re-examine some priorities.
There's no way it will work. I can try to make it work.
It's too radical a change. Let's take a chance.
No one bothers to communicate with me. I'll see if I can open the channels of communication.
I'm not going to get any better at this. I'll give it another try.

Practicing positive thinking every day

If you tend to have a negative outlook, don't expect to become an optimist overnight. But with practice, eventually your self-talk will contain less self-criticism and more self-acceptance. You may also become less critical of the world around you. Plus, when you share your positive mood and positive experience, both you and those around you enjoy an emotional boost.
Practicing positive self-talk will improve your outlook. When your state of mind is generally optimistic, you're able to handle everyday stress in a more constructive way. That ability may contribute to the widely observed health benefits of positive thinking.

Tuesday, July 5, 2011

sleep techniques


We’ve all heard about counting sheep and to be honest its effectiveness varies from person to person. The reason often being is that too much concentration and focus is put on the actual task. If the conscious mind is too awake you may find yourself counting up to 1000 and still not feel any sleepier.
It’s the subconscious part of the mind that knows how to sleep. I’m sure you’ve tried, but you absolutely cannot will yourself to sleep, it just doesn’t happen that way. Fact is, sleep isn’t supposed to be forced, it’s supposed to just happen naturally. If you’ve suffered from insomnia for many years and relied on sleep medication to help you sleep, you may find natural sleep difficult.
This is because, you have come to rely on sleeping pills and you are no longer relying on your natural ability to sleep. This habit has been ingrained into your subconscious and is in effect becoming the way you are. However, just as we can learn to walk, ride a bike and drive a car, you can learn how to sleep. More accurately you are reawakening and reinforcing your own ability to sleep.
There are many sleep techniques you can try such as progressive relaxation and deep breathing. In fact there are far more effective and natural ways to deal with insomnia than your average sleeping pill. However, today I will explain a simple and basic sleep technique which you will be able to follow with ease.
This sleep technique is similar to counting sheep, however it is far more effective as you will see in a minute:
Step 1:
Once you’re ready to sleep, ensure that your bed and bedroom is dark, comfortable and not too warm. It’s best to lie on your back for this. So get yourself in a comfortable position and close your eyes.
Step 2:
Now begin to breathe deeply and slowly. Listen to each slow inhale and exhale. On each exhale, feel your body sinking down into the bed. Feel your body heavy and tired. Continue this until you feel relaxed from head to toe.
Step 3:
Now it’s time to begin with some affirmations. Imagine a calm and soothing voice and tell yourself ‘You feel sleepy and tired’ and ‘You will sleep better and better every night’ Feel free to adapt and change the affirmations. Just ensure that you use positive language.
Step 4:
Now continuing with your deep, slow breathing, begin to count up on each exhale. Working from your head to your toes, relax a part of your body on each exhale. Imagine and feel your body heavy and sinking deeper into the bed. Continue this until you reach your toes.
Step 5:
You may find that you lose track when counting. This is a good sign that you’re drifting, if this happens, don’t worry exactly where you were, just continue roughly where you left off. If at the end you are still awake, don’t panic! You can’t expect miracle cures.

Wednesday, May 25, 2011

The AIRTEL guys are cheating me.


The AIRTEL guys are cheating me.


i don’t know how far it will take to port-out from airtel and port-in to BSNL.

I’ve applied for portability of my number Kerala Airtel to BSNL
on 23rd May 2011, Tuday I got message that.

"(G)Your Port In request for Mobile Number 9895938897 has been rejected by your service provider due to legal reasons - BSNL."

I don’t know what legal reasons.
It is very cheap practice to retain customer.

BSNL is transparent in billing and everywhere available in India.

Regards,
manu.kollam
+91 9895938897

Monday, April 18, 2011

Never miss the first opportunity

A young man wished to marry the farmer's beautiful daughter. He went to the farmer to ask his permission.

The farmer looked him over and said,..

"Son, go stand out in that field. I'm going to release three bulls, one at a time.

If you can catch the tail of any one of the three bulls, you can marry my daughter."

The young man stood in the pasture awaiting the first bull.

The barn door opened and out ran the biggest, meanest-looking bull he had ever seen. He decided that one of the next bulls had to be a better choice than this one, so he ran over to the side and let the bull pass through the pasture out the back gate.

The barn door opened again. Unbelievable. He had never seen anything so big and fierce in his life. It stood pawing the ground, grunting, slinging slobber as it eyed him.

Whatever the next bull was like, it had to be a better choice than this one. He ran to the fence and let the bull pass through the pasture, out the back gate.


The door opened a third time. A smile came across his face. This was the weakest, scrawniest little bull he had ever seen. This one was his bull.

As the bull came running by, he positioned himself just right and jumped at just the exact moment. He grabbed... but the bull had no tail!

Life is full of opportunities. Some will be easy to take advantage of, some will be difficult. But once we let them pass (often in hopes of something better), those opportunities may never again be available.

So always grab the first opportunity.

Sunday, April 17, 2011

Drawing Anime Girl


Preview  Step 1: Create a new file. Set as following picture.  Step 2: Shift+Ctrl+N, create a new layer. Step 3: Draw. In this drawing, I use the #19 brush which is showing in the following.   Step 4: After the sketch part, Create 3 new layers for cleaning lines.  Step 5: Change opacity of layer “sketch” as following. Step 6: Clean lines as following step Layer 1 Layer 2 Draw the eyes on layer 3. Result. Step 7: Start coloring. On layer2, select the following area and then select inverse.  Step8: Ctrl+Shift+N, create a “skin” layer as following.  Step 9: Go to the Skin layer, press G, use the paint tool to paint the select area on the skin Layer. *change Opacity to 30—50. (Depending on your taste.) Result:  Use darker color to add shadow effect  Step 10: Go to layer 1, select the following area. And select inverse. Create a new layer called “hair”  G again, Use tool as before. Add shadows as before. Result: Step 11: Create a new layer called “eye”. Add colors for the eyes. Step 12: Create a new layer and put it on the top. Draw some high light.  Step 13: Merge Layers 1, 2, 3. Then change the Opacity to 15.  Step 14: Create a new layer called “outline”. Draw the final line. Use whatever colors you want. (I used the dark green for the hair’s outline and brown for the face outline)  Step 15: Clean each layer,and Ctrl+L change the level.  Step 16: Create a new layer for drawing the back ground.   Step 17: Select the following area and inverse select.  Step 18: Delete, to delete the selected area.  Step 19:Change brush, use this brush makes the outline brighter.  Step 20: Sign it! Like a true artist.  Written by Cecilia.


Special Thanks : http://psd.tu-torial.com/photoshop-tutorials/drawing-anime-girl/